Getting confrontational!!!

If anyone reads this, I'd love to hear your opinion of whether I make a valid point or not. I was livid to say the least.

Lately I've been getting involved in this great site:
http://www.militaryissuedgirlfriends.com

it's fun and supportive and has women of all levels of military involvement, not just girlfriends...
but anyways, I had an intro post and a girl posted to me a seemingly normal greeting:
Her: Heyy! I'm Anna and my BF is in the air force too, he's been in for almost 8 years. I'm actually in Korea right now with him for a few months til we PCS to florida- he's stationed at osan. Is your BF still here? did you ever get a chance to visit here? Welcome to MIG! :]

ok...normal
Me:no, I wasn't able to visit Osan, but he is really excited about me visiting his new base in Japan. He switched last month.
and thanks! ^_^

Her:ooh japan fun.
well you didn't miss much by not visiting, lol. well.... a lot of bars, haha. but thats it...

I figure I could bring up something we could commiserate on, being girls with big hearts, eh?
Me: that's what he said, too. And I'm not really drinking age yet so ....yeah lol
my heart bleeds for the "juicys" though...those poor girls!! starting so young!

her response? a little snarky if you ask me!
Her:I'm not drinking age yet either haha (well here in Korea, I am. but not in the states). but they don't card, so yeah...

I don't feel sorry for the juice girls, they are REALLY annoying. It's sad they don't really have a future but honestly, I think they are the most annoying human beings I have ever come across, no joke.

my response (which I later edited with the strike-out and sneaking around bit...you'll see why in a min):
Me: heh still...most of them started that lifestyle at the age of 14. It's just wrong. I'm glad my boyfriend's TSGT wouldn't tolerate his shop getting involved with them. I know there were some single guys in his shop that were <strikeout>dying to try itstrikeout> sneaking around and trying not to get caught.

then she crosses a line....a HUGE line
her: Not trying to say your boyfriend is wrong, but I have been here for only a few days and I have already met plenty of dudes, E5, E6 and up who get involved with juices. My boyfriend is a SSGT and so the people he hangs out with are all higher rank for the most part, and a lot of them (read: most of them) get involved with juices when they're not at work and everybodys drunk. It's just part of the life here, it doesn't matter what rank you are. Yeah it is frowned upon by the entire air force, but it still happens, a lot, a lot, a lot. don't let what your boyfriend says fool you, it's not true.

and it's not just single guys either. my bf is usually honest about these things, and he pointed out at least 5 or 10 guys when we were on base the other day who are married or have serious girlfriends in the states but get involved with juices.

Just sayin. :]

DID I JUST READ WHAT I THOUGHT I READ?
"don't let what your boyfriend says fool you, it's not true."

WOAH WOAH WOAH
NO
YOU
DIDN'T

"not true" means "false" amirite? to be "false" is to lie, amirite?
SHE JUST ACCUSED KEITH OF LYING TO MY FACE!!!!!!!!

Needless to say this was my response (the disclaimer was added after I wrote it and had had a few min to calm down)
Me:

***DISCLAIMER***
I didn't mean for this to be this long or this...confrontational. Please take it with a grain of salt. I have been dealing with similar issues regarding my relationship with Keith with a lot of people I care about, and I think the following rant is more aimed at them and not as much at you...though you definitely sparked it.
******

DON'T EVER call Keith a liar.
I'm sorry but that is the thing that pisses me off the most; someone making assumptions of him that are totally and completely un-true.

Let me re-phrase my previous post so that it's clear that I was giving people, airman and juicy alike, the benefit of the doubt and am NOT under the false delusions that people so quickly assume I am in.
1) I know that a juicy is a prostitute that is a common facet of entertainment in a good percentage of Korean bars. They are everywhere. Most of them started when they were too young to need to know what sex is. Most of them are carrying some form of STD. Some are known for having US military "boyfriends" who are actually just frequent customers. I know this from talking to Keith about it.
2) I know there are Airmen, who would normally be considered "good guys" who have wives and parents and girlfriends back home who genuinely love them, who are involved with or have been involved with a juicy/s. I know because Keith was decent friends with some of them. I know one almost lost his American girlfriend over it and another guy in the shop contracted syphilis from one encounter though I'm sure it wasn't the last. I know this from talking to Keith about it.
3) I know his shop's TSGT did not tolerate involvement with them. If he found any kind of proof via internet or photos that one of his guys did, then there would be consequences, though obviously that didn't stop them. Most of the time they just wouldn't bring it up when he was around and he would turn a blind eye to the issue. I know this from talking to Keith about it.
4) I know Keith has been into juicy bars. His friends would meet at certain ones. He has talked to a juicy for a bit because his friend asked her to their table, but when he was more interested in asking her questions about her lifestyle than letting her do her normal job, she got uncomfortable and went to a different customer. I know this because I TALK TO KEITH ABOUT IT.

Do you see the trend? We talk. All the time, every day. It doesn't matter what time or what topic. We talk about it all. Long before he joined the Air Force we decided that if this long distance thing was going to work there needed to be no secrets between us. None. Ever.
I trust him, he trusts me. That's the way we are. Period.

Wow....that was a lot more than I expected to write. That is the biggest rant I think I've written in a long time. Thank you.





....but yeah...we'll see how this goes

Here I am

In my room. Indie music playing. Ready to clean. Gotta get it done...... *sigh*
I'm just not feeling it. I was all ready to, too. Then my class was canceled and I got caught up with Keith and the monitor arrived and grandma called and I finished reading the other blog I was into...

...I don't wanna clean my room. I like to pretend that if I leave our mess then he's not really gone again. His socks and t-shirts are all over. Our Christmas goodies are stashed everywhere. And now the gigantic compy screen is laying on my bed...he's gotta come get that, right?
sidenote: I decided that when we have our own place someday, we will get pans that fit into the sink so that I can soak them. Today's dish-washing was such a pain.

oh and I suck at lighting matches. I got a new candle, but the matches in the little matchbook I had just won't light for me. :/ maybe I'll borrow some decent wood ones from grandma tonight until I can buy myself a lighter thing.
wait! I did it! After about a 1/2 a book of matches (4 of which ended up lit but dropped into the candle before they were able to do anything) I got the candlewick lit and then promptly dropped the thing into the candle and let it burn for a bit before fishing it out with tweezers >_> yes I'm a scaredy cat :P But, at least now my room might smell like strawberry-rhubarb pie ^_^

See? I taught myself something new today.

would you look at that...

.....ah screw it.
I will write more and as much as I have time for. But today was the first day of class and Keith's scheduale is a ll funky and we were talking and his friend was in the room and...well now it's 0:38 and the second day I didn't write like I said I would.
.....bother.
So I will write, but I will not beat myself silly trying to keep up with the days.
116 by the way...I thought you would like to know.
Until we have an actual date set, this will be my guesstimate.
but for now...sleeps.

Soon we will be together again.

Ugh! I'm a horrible person!

I said everyday!
It hasn't even been a week and I already failed! *grumbles*

well...to make up for it I'll post 2 today.
I've been feeling like doing one of these silly myspacey quizzes for a few days now....found one!

Here I go:
If you could put one night on repeat and replay it forever would you?
my goodness yes...the tough part would be choosing which night!

You're locked in a room with the person you last kissed, any problems?
none at all...give us a few hours alone; we have some kissing to make up for

Without naming names, say one thing to someone?
You make my day, every day.

What woke you up this morning?
alarm clock

If you were given the chance to go to Paris, would you go?
yes. though I'd rather go to Japan right now

Would you have a baby with the last person you kissed?
I plan to someday.

Have you ever liked someone older than you?
yup. He's 3 years older than me

What's annoying you?
my hair shedding everywhere from when I brushed it.

Is anyone on your bad side right now?
not really

Did you go outside for more than 30 minutes today?
yup. I was talking to mom

Do you remember who you liked this time three months ago?
yup ^_^ he's been the same guy since October 2007

Kissed anyone with the name starting with a J?
my ex from high-school

Has anyone said they love you in the last week?
Yes. He said it to me multiple times when we talked just this morning

Who was the last person you hugged?
dad

Do you have any siblings?
one widdle brudder who's growing up too fast

Do you sleep with the door opened or closed?
in T, open for the cat. In LB, closed to avoid the dogs

Do your jeans have rips, tears, and holes in them?
only along the bottom hem

Tell me about the shirt you are wearing?
camisole under a sweater

When's the last time you were surprised?
yesterday. The movie was rather good ^_^

What is the last non-alcoholic beverage you had?
green iced tea

Do you prefer pasta, salad, or coleslaw?
pasta

If you were granted one wish, what would you wish for?
to be able to magically graduate after this semester

Could you go for the rest of your life without drinking alcohol?
if I had to. But it is fun.

Whose bed were you on last?
mine

Do you trust all of your friends?
mostly. If I can't trust them then they don't get much further than "acquaintance"

Does anyone call you babe?
my dad. that's it

Do you think you can last in a relationship for 6 months without cheating?
already do/have/will. I've been with Keith for over 2 years and have never doubted my loyalty to him

Could you go out in public looking like you do now?
Yup. I'm not very prissy

Did you reject or accept your last friend request?
accept

Do you have a member of the opposite sex you can tell everything to?
I do. ^_^

You think anyone has feelings for you?
he told me so this morning ^_^ again

Can you have more than one best friend?
Yup yup

Are you starting to realize anything?
sure

Is a good or bad thing your realizing?
very good I think

Have you ever known someone that just creeped you out?
mmmhmmmm they happen at Anime Club all too often

Do you hate it when people mispronounce your name?
no...no one really does unless they are ESL

So tell me the truth, is the last person you texted attractive?
yes she is. (<3 u Michelle!)

What is your favorite drink?
green tea

How do you feel about your hair right now?
needs a brushing....brushie brushie brushie

Do you get distracted easily?
what do you think this is?

What are you craving?
something sweet....in the tasty and metaphorical sense

What is your age?
20

Do you have a dog?
2 and a 1/2

What do you think about girls?
they make good friends and companions and I'd like to give birth to one someday

Do you get jealous easily?
eh...it's not like you think.

Do you make your own money?
not really. painting and faire don't count as an income

Are you ready for kids now?
no nuh uh no way no no

Is there a person of the opposite sex who means a lot to you?
you have absolutely no idea unless he's in the military...then you might

Do you like the beach?
it's alright

Ever gone camping?
last time was in Escondio

What's upset you the most in the past week?
loss

Will you be in a relationship in two months?
yes I will

Miss anyone?
always

How did you get one of your scars?
a vicious game of spoons

How are you feeling at this moment?
impatient

How did your night go last night?
had fun. Stayed out and up late.

How did you get the shirt you're wearing?
mom at Costco lol

How old do you want to be when you get married?
22

What did you do last weekend?
tried not to be emo

What is the most important part of your life?
yes

What would you rather be doing?
flying to Japan

What did you last cry over?
the cat

What always makes you feel better when you’re upset?
music. friends. staying busy.

What’s the most important thing you look for in a significant other?
that he will be a good husband and father someday ^_^

What are you worried about?
the unknown

Have you ever liked someone who had a girlfriend/boyfriend?
nope

Have you ever had your heartbroken?
I thought so at the time. It wasn't so bad in hindsight.

Have you ever been out of the country?
only South of the Border


ok...I'll really blog later.
But, for now. I wait.

He should be waking up at any moment...

Distraction is key.

He gets snow. I got rain.
He's going snowboarding. I'm moving back to school.
He plays his mmo. I have my crochet.

We both are filling the same void: each other.

Distraction is key.
That's why I've decided that once I get back to school:
> I'm going to spend a day in Cerritos and Artesia looking for the perfect fabric for the vest I will wear at Ren-Faire this season.
>I also want to make it a personal goal to learn, create, and complete a new crochet stitch and make a bedspread as a wedding gift for my lovely Lindsay, who will be wed next January.
>I also need to look further into planning my trip. I have my passport, double-check health insurance coverage, and have a small scrap-journal set and ready to be filled in with adventure details.
>Details of online summer classes also need to be arranged.

Semester ends in May. I've got lots to do.
But for now, I'm off.

I distract myself to hide the pain of his absence.

Well...look at this dusty old thing...

It's been a while. Not that I really went anywhere with it to begin with. But you know what? Today I want to make a promise. A promise that I will write every day until the next time I see him.
My love. My passion. My better half. My Airman. He inspires me every day to keep going, to keep faith, to keep our goals progressing. I love him for that. That and so much more. I cannot imagine me without him anymore. We mesh so perfectly.

But after 5 weeks of holiday bliss, he had to return to the mysterious Asian land in which they insist he work. At least it isn't the middle east. For that I am grateful. Though I do wish that I could speed up the process. Once I graduate, I....we are gone. Out of this town, out of this rut, this dog house....

So here I sit...listening to "The Plegde" by Brenden Benson and dreaming of less rainy days of December that I spent so comfortably entwined....

"Soon, my love." he says. It can't come fast enough.